HEALTHY FAMILIES START WITH HEALTHY ...
COMMITMENT AND FAMILY: OUR COMMITMENT TOWARDS OUR PARTNER
AND OUR CHILDREN BECOMES SOLID ONCE WE LEARN HOW TO COMMUNICATE AND MAINTAIN HEALTHY CONVERSATIONS WITH EACH OTHER AND WITH THE MEMBERS OF OUR FAMILY. LEARNING TO PLEASE AND HELP EACH OTHER FOR A HAPPIER AND BETTER LIFE WITH HARMONY.
WHEN WE ARE READY TO FING THE PATH TO IMPROVE OUR LIFE...
To turn a disharmonious pattern of interacting with people into a harmonious pattern, it is important to own one's behaviors and examine how those behaviors may be contributing to disharmony.
WE HAVE AN OBLIGATION TO OURSELVES AND THOSE WE LOVE TO BE HEALTHY, PHYSICAL, EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY. ONE BIG CONFUSION COMES WHEN WE BELIEVE THAT EMOTIONAL CONFLICTS MAKES US INFERIOR.
People often have significant concerns regarding seeking mental health treatment. Sadly, there are people who avoid getting the treatment they really need because they are afraid of the repercussions. Most of these concerns are related to fears about what others might think, with ramifications for relationships, career, and so on.
Such concerns are not surprising, though. Truth be told, even today there is still significant stigma attached to mental health treatment. Our knowledge has expanded. Now, we accept that there is always room for improvement. By improving our lives, we can achieve happiness and balance in our relationships and in our marriages. Our center provides you with the tools.
Psychotherapy works with issues like depression, anxiety, marriage or couples' relationship, and other concerns that are part of being human but which interfere with healthy and happy functioning and which have persisted for more than a few weeks. We offer groups throughout the week, at convenient times and available to you to explore and to work on those areas of your life that require your attention.
This is our time to consider important facts that affect our lives. We all need to feel accepted and at the same time be able to accept others. It becomes enriching and the birth of new lives. No boundaries, more communication, better control of our behaviors and better and more empowering relationships. To do that we need to examine ourselves and look at each one of those hidden issues that are creating unhappiness for us and for those we love.
In our practice we promote safety, as we continue to work assisting couples, domestic violence issues will be taken into consideration as part of the treatment.
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HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
No matter what type of relationship it is -- a family relationship, a friendship or a romantic relationship -- there are four key components that make for a healthy relationship:
RESPECT: A healthy relationship involves mutual respect -- taking the time to discover and enjoy what each person has to share and contribute to the relationship. Respecting your partner means actively listening to what they say and need, and trying to understand their point of view. It also means valuing their worth as an individual and respecting what is important to them. When respect is absent from a relationship, power becomes out of balance and one partner will dominate over the other. Usually, the less dominant partner is forced to sacrifice autonomy, values, goals, or other relationships.
HONESTY: A healthy relationship means not only being honest with your partner, but also being honest with yourself. Some challenging questions you should ask yourself are What are my thoughts and feelings about this relationship, what do I want to happen in this relationship, and how do I want it to grow? Having a solid understanding of your true feelings will better prepare you for sharing them honestly with your partner. Healthy relationships thrive when both individuals involved share who they truly are and what they truly desire. Deceit and manipulation only destroy a relationship.
TRUST: A healthy relationship involves trust -- each individual feeling they truly know their partner and are truly respected by their partner. It also entails feeling confident that your partner will be there for you in times of need as well as joy. Trust is established through honesty and respect and is built over time. On the other hand, it may take only one broken promise to completely shatter it.
COMMUNICATION: In a healthy relationship, communication is the vehicle through which partners demonstrate their respect, honesty and trust. Communication has two ingredients: 1) clearly expressing your thoughts, feelings, needs, and wishes, and 2) actively listening to the thoughts, feelings, needs, and wishes of your partner. Through communication, individuals learn about their partner and gain a deeper understanding of how to enrich their relationship.
Healthy relationships require time to develop. They do not unfold overnight, or even in a week. They require an individual's willingness to invest time and emotion as well as a willingness to change and grow.
WHAT DOES RESPECT MEAN IN A DATING RELATIONSHIP?
Boundaries
Each person has a right to physical and emotional boundaries. You decide what limits you have. You set your own boundaries. You have a right to have your limits respected. You also have the responsibility to respect the limits of your partner.
Communication
You have the right to speak your mind without fear and to be heard by others. You have the responsibility to listen to your partner. The best relationships encourage two-way communication.
Equality
Both partners have an equal share in decision making. Neither partner is used selfishly by the other. The interests, opinions, and feelings of both partners matter.
Self-Esteem
In a respectful relationship, your belief in yourself stays strong and often increases. You feel good about yourself and how your partner treats you.
When respect is not there...
Boundaries can be ignored and overrun. Communication can break down. One person can ignore the wishes and rights of the other. Abuse can take place. Date rape can happen.
Being Sure About Consent- In a respectful relationship...
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Both people feel safe
Both people feel safe •Both people feel appreciated
Both people feel appreciated •Both people are considerate
Both people are considerate •Both people are understanding
Both people are understanding Each person feels safe, appreciated, and understood when both people in the relationship express what they are feeling and say what they want and need.
"Yes."
"Let's talk it over."
"I'd like to do that."
"Do you want to?"
"I don't want to have sex. I do want to kiss and be close..."
In a romantic relationship
Consent requires talking together and actively agreeing on the level of sexual intimacy you are both ready for. No bully, no pushing, no pressure. It isn't always easy -- but it is respect.
For more information, please contact (305) 491-5223.
Unhealthy Relationships- Peggy Walton & Dr. Irene Matiato.
Do you wonder if you are in an unhealthy relationship? Ask yourself the questions below. If you answer yes to a few, take a closer look:
Does your partner:
•Ignore your feelings?
Ignore your feelings? •Disrespect you?
Disrespect you? •Ridicule you, then tell you it is just a joke?
Ridicule you, then tell you it is just a joke?•Withhold approval, appreciation, or affection?
Withhold approval, appreciation, or affection? •Give you the silent treatment?
Give you the silent treatment? •Criticize you, call you names, and yell at you?
Criticize you, call you names, and yell at you?•Humiliate you in public or private?
Humiliate you in public or private? •Give you a hard time about socializing with friends or family?
Give you a hard time about socializing with friends or family? •Tell you that you are too sensitive?
Tell you that you are too sensitive? •Hurt you when you are down?
Hurt you when you are down? •"Twist" your words around against you?
"Twist" your words around against you? •Make decisions for you?
Make decisions for you? •Threaten to leave or throw you out?
Threaten to leave or throw you out?•Interrupt you and not really listen?
Interrupt you and not really listen? •Incite you to rage, which is "proof" that you are too blame?
Incite you to rage, which is "proof" that you are too blame? •"Accidentally" hit or push you?
"Accidentally" hit or push you?Your situation may be critical if you:
•Find yourself walking on eggshells.
Find yourself walking on eggshells.•Express your opinions less freely.
Express your opinions less freely. •Feel emotionally unsafe.
Feel emotionally unsafe. •Hope things will change...especially through love and understanding.
Hope things will change...especially through love and understanding. •Finding yourself doubting your memory.
Finding yourself doubting your memory. •Feel insecure, trapped, and powerless.
Feel insecure, trapped, and powerless. •Have been afraid of your partner.
Have been afraid of your partner. Devastating reality : Codependency
Identifying Codependent Behavior.
* Do you feel responsible for other peoples problems?
* Do you feel responsible to help people solve thier problems?
* Do you feel Guilt or anger when your help isn't effective?
* Do you find yourself saying Yes when you mean NO, and doing things you really don't want to do?
* Do you try to Please other's instead of yourself?
* Do you feel bored or worthless when you don't have a crisis in your life, or a problem to solve, or someone to help?
These are just some of the signs of codependency
One of the most important steps to feeling better is to take stock in the people you have surrounded yourself with. You may need to detach yourself from some of these people.
Detachment has many rewards like: Serenity, a deep sense of peace, and the freedom to find solutions to your own problems.
Then you need to learn to say No when you mean No.
As a child one of the first words we learn is No , but as adults No becomes one of the hardest things to say. when you can learn to say No when you mean No you will start to feel better, Practice saying No, sometimes is it as easy as just not answering the phone.
Are you the person all of your friends go to with all of their problems, But when you have a problem you have no where or no one to turn to, If that is the case your friends are not really your friends.
In this case detachment may be the best solution, at least until you have taken time to start taking care of yourself. Start putting yourself first.
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